Coping With Loss
We are so sorry for your loss and the need for you to find us!
Losing a baby is one of the most difficult experiences a person can go through. Regardless of the circumstance or time spent getting to know your baby, a loss can be hard to recover from physically, emotionally, and spiritually. No parent should experience the loss of their baby. However, around 1 of every 4 pregnancies ends in a miscarriage, and 1 of every 160 pregnancies end in stillbirths. Baby loss is significantly more common than most individuals realize. While baby loss is becoming more acknowledged in conversations, you may feel very lonely and isolated. Please know you are not alone! Our desire is that you will find hope and a renewal of spirit throughout our website, through our Hope Totes, the shared stories on our blog, and the words of our comfort and inspiration on our social media.
Pregnancy loss affects people, couples, families, and social gatherings in an unexpected and different way. Please know the recommendations below might be useful for some, however, they are not expected to be the best response in each situation. You may find that some suggestions are best suited for different times of your grieving process. We encourage you to search different paths to process your feelings, grief, and movement forward. Most importantly, please remember to be kind to yourself and your partner. ♥
∞ Take as much time staying close to home as you need following your loss. If you are able, take time off of work, school, or different responsibilities. Comfort at home may take longer than others think it should.
∞ Give yourself grace to cancel plans and give yourself grace to smile, laugh, and go out again when you are ready. There is no timeline for grief. One day you may feel like going out to dinner with friends or family and the next you may not.
∞ It can be very easy to blame yourself for your loss, but it was not your fault!
∞ Do not stress over being judged by others – baby loss isn’t something to be embarrassed about
∞ Mourn and memorialize your baby in whatever way is special to you
∞ Journaling or writing down your feelings on a piece of paper can help work through your feelings and loss. You can also share your story “out loud” on our blog.
∞ Reach out to family and friends for help with dinner, cleaning, childcare, or just a chat. It’s ok to tell them you don’t know what you need help with and to accept whatever they offer to help with if you want to.
∞ Talking with a grief counselor, pastor, or priest might be useful in figuring out feelings.
∞ Talk about your baby and the story of your loss when you want and need to. Try not to stress that others might not want to listen – it is your story to share and it is now a part of what makes you, you!
∞ Although it may feel comforting to turn to alcohol, drugs, or eating, it can turn into excess. Please use caution.
It is normal for people who have endured a baby loss to fall into deep depression and thoughts of harming themselves. Please reach out to a grief counselor, specialist or contact the National Suicide Prevention Lifeline at 800-273-8255.